Let’s talk about honesty shall we? I know I know…sometimes we don’t want to hear or tell the truth right? What do they say? Oh yeah “the truth hurts” or as my boy Jack said in a famous movie once “the truth – you can’t handle the truth!”

Why is it that we associate negative emotions with the truth? Why does it hurt? Why can’t we handle it? Well, from my experience we shy away from the truth because confrontation is sometimes associated with tell and receiving the truth right? What do most people do? They spend their lives avoiding confrontation. It’s uncomfortable…I hate hurting the ones I love…I want to run away….

I could spend a lot of time on this topic, but to boil it down so we can gain some perspective from it would be to say – honesty/truth are mandatory to experiencing true growth. If we don’t know we aren’t or are doing something that is making our loved ones mad or upset, how can we make things better and them happier? How many relationships have suddenly ended when one party blows up and says all the things that have been bothering them during their time together? How many people go to work everyday frustrated and mad because of their work situations? How many of us actually pony up to the table to share our true (TRUE) feelings? To make the situation better? Not many in my experience. Instead, we have bitch sessions (or also known as pity parties) with our friends about how messed up things are, but seldom do we offer solutions right? Either for ourselves or as the friend who keeps hearing the same stuff over and over again.

Life is too short not to be especially honest with ourselves. I mean really, we know what the truth about our short-comings are…we know the truth if we love someone or not. We know the truth about putting up with stuff and we know the truth of what makes up REALLY happy right? Isn’t the number one goal in life to be happy? Life is short – very short and it is up to each of us to be honest with ourselves (and loved ones etc.) in order to have a truly happy and fulfilling life.

In summary, I encourage each and every one of you to begin (if you aren’t already) being honest with yourself. Once you live from an honest place, you know better where you are and how to best to really get where you want to go. If you are lying (or kidding yourself), then what real progress towards true happiness are you going to find?

Until next time,

All my best,

Christopher